Hes keeping you keen by being mean! The more the guy acts cold, the more you want him to be hot with you again. That means that youre essentially waiting for him to want you, and for him to make a move on you. As such, youre giving him a lot of power and the ball is definitely in his court.

Why does someone go hot and cold?

“In the hot phase, you feel attention and attraction and it can feel intense. Then comes the cold phase when they pull away, making you crave their attention and yearn for them,” Zeising explains. As a result, it leaves you feeling rejected, confused, frustrated – or even powerless.