Theres an easy, open connection. The hot phase is designed to get you in the gate that leads to the corral, where youll later be harnessed. Then comes the “cold” phase. Your partner begins to pull away making you long for their previous attention.

When a guy is hot and cold?

If youve just started dating and hes blowing hot and cold with you, he might just be trying to pace things. He might be worried that if you rush things or see each other too much in the early days, things will burn out quickly and itll be over before it can really start.

Why is my partner hot and cold?

There are many reasons a person blows hot and cold. It could be that they are not ready for a committed relationship; they dont know what they want; they are not sure what to do about their intense feelings for you; or they are emotionally unstable or unavailable.